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Goodreads helps you keep track of books you want to read. Want to Read saving…. Want to Read Currently Reading Read. Other editions. Enlarge cover. Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Open Preview See a Problem? Details if other :. Thanks for telling us about the problem. Return to Book Page. Preview — Party of One by Anneli Rufus. An essential defense of the people the world loves to revile--the loners--yet without whom it would be lost The Buddha.
Rene Descartes. Emily Dickinson. Greta Garbo. Bobby Fischer. Salinger: Loners, all--along with as many as 25 percent of the world's population. Loners keep to themselves, and like it that way. Yet in the press, in films, in folklore, and nearly every An essential defense of the people the world loves to revile--the loners--yet without whom it would be lost The Buddha.
Yet in the press, in films, in folklore, and nearly everywhere one looks, loners are tagged as losers and psychopaths, perverts and pity cases, ogres and mad bombers, elitists and wicked witches. Too often, loners buy into those messages and strive to change, making themselves miserable in the process by hiding their true nature--and hiding from it. Loners as a group deserve to be reassessed--to claim their rightful place, rather than be perceived as damaged goods that need to be "fixed.
Marshalling a polymath's easy erudition to make her case, assembling evidence from every conceivable arena of culture as well as interviews with experts and loners worldwide and her own acutely calibrated analysis, Rufus rebuts the prevailing notion that aloneness is indistinguishable from loneliness, the fallacy that all of those who are alone don't want to be, and wouldn't be, if only they knew how. Get A Copy.
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To ask other readers questions about Party of One , please sign up. I don't need no stinkin' book to tell me why I like being alone.
I wish I could remove it from my "to read" shelf? I must have had a momentary lapse of reason when I added this book.
Not to mention some of the reviews by real loners did not like it. I am surprised they bothered to read it at all. This is not a question, I already know the answers,.
Hadyn Go to your "to read" bookshelf. Find this book. In the top right corner of this book's "section" there will be an X. Click the X and hit "ok" in the p …more Go to your "to read" bookshelf. Click the X and hit "ok" in the prompt box.
It will remove the book from your shelf. See 2 questions about Party of One…. Lists with This Book. Community Reviews. Showing Average rating 3. Rating details. More filters. Sort order. Feb 12, Wesley Harney rated it it was amazing. Until I started reading this book, on Monday, I had previously held the misconception that I was defected for not being more social.
The book has opened my eyes to some interesting aspects about myself, life, and how my lonerness affects my relationships. I learned that people that I get close to, romantically, feel as if I am being aloof, and stand offish. That they believe that I am not into them, or that I am avoiding them. It is rather an interesting, and new concept for me. The book has mad Until I started reading this book, on Monday, I had previously held the misconception that I was defected for not being more social.
That, in itself, is comforting. View 2 comments. Nov 14, Matt rated it it was ok Recommends it for: loners, goth kids, and people contemplating suicide that need a little spirit boost. I feel weird when I start a book and don't finish it, even if I hate it. That being said, I have given in to the fact that I am never going to finish this one, and I didn't hate it.
I like her basic premise, and she definitely seems like she has done her research. As I get older, I feel like I'm tending to become more of a loner, but this lady takes it a bit too far. Basically she's telling people to be proud of th I feel weird when I start a book and don't finish it, even if I hate it. Basically she's telling people to be proud of this personality trait, which I agree with, but then it feels like she spends all this time defending the loner lifestyle.
And I'm not sure from whom. It's a bit dramatic at times. And in her mind every creative person, be it an artist, musician, actor, etc. I don't buy that. All in all, it started out very interesting, but drifted towards preachy at times and eventually just repeated itself over and over.
View all 4 comments. Feb 25, Emma Sea rated it it was amazing Shelves: non-fiction , auckland-library , bible. This may be my new favourite book ever. Confession: three weeks into a new job I once burst into tears because the team sprung a suprise shared lunch on me. After having to endlessly talk to people, in a stresful new situation, all I wanted was to be ALONE, with my BOOK, for an hour to find myself again, and realising I was instead going to have to make small talk gahk!!
Anneli would understand this, because "Forced to act like a non-loner for an extended period. As deep sea fish die in a shallow tank" Also, Anneli understands that the internet is the best thing evah! View all 15 comments. Feb 15, Meg rated it did not like it Shelves: read-in Pretension oozes out of this book. I picked up this book expecting an interesting examination of what it means to be a loner. Instead, the book reads more like a scattered list of loners with a one- to two-paragraph summary of the randomly chosen loner, maybe peppered with a quotation.
When the book isn't rambling about random topics, it's rather defensive and self-righteous about "we loners," what "we're" like. Being a loner myself, I often wished the author would speak for herself. Not recommen Pretension oozes out of this book. Not recommended. May 05, Forrest rated it liked it. Most people who meet me in person have a hard time believing that I self-identify as a loner. They see me as pretty gregarious and comfortable in most social situations, even among total strangers.
I'm not terminally shy, as they say. Thankfully, my wife understands this about me and knows that there are stretches when I'd rather go down to my writing area and spend time there, writing pen in hand, trying to churn out book Most people who meet me in person have a hard time believing that I self-identify as a loner. Thankfully, my wife understands this about me and knows that there are stretches when I'd rather go down to my writing area and spend time there, writing pen in hand, trying to churn out books and games and books for games , more than anything else in the world.
And those times come often. Being around people takes energy away from me. I have to give the energy. Again, this doesn't mean I'm anti-social - far from it - but I am very careful about where and how and how often I expend my energy to be in the presence of others for long stretches.
A Loners' Manifesto
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Party of One: The Loners' Manifesto
By choice or necessity, permanently for some and intermittently for the rest, each of us is going to be alone. Nor is he -- and loners are almost always thought of as men -- the iconic single white male between the ages of 25 and 50, from whose morose ranks are supposed to come the next Theodore Kaczynski, Timothy McVeigh, John Wayne Gacy and all postal gunmen and the creeps who dine on the bodies of their dead. Bishop was instantly branded a classic loner in world headlines on the strength of a suicide note that had kind words for Osama bin Laden. His solitary habits were then picked apart in the media to support his loner-as-killer label. Bishop was popular with his high school classmates and teachers, volunteered to tutor first-graders, played on school teams and was more than conventionally patriotic. It sets the criminal apart from ordinary people, from the masses, designating him as a freak, a demon, and an alien. This ties up matters neatly.
One is (not) the loneliest number
W elcome to the homepage of Anneli Rufus. This page is about my book Party of One: the Loners' Manifesto. Here we are, having this rendezvous without having to see each other, without having to be in the same place at the same time, without having to talk or check each other out or wear decent clothes. It's loner time.
PARTY OF ONE: The Loners' Manifesto
Such a simple concept. So concrete. So easy to represent on charts or diagrams with dots and pushpins either in or out. Yet real life is not dots. Some of us appear to be in, but we are out.